Can You Really Get Over Someone By Writing About It? Apparently, You Can

Can You Really Get Over Someone By Writing About It? Apparently, You Can

This is your sign to start a journal to vent out your feelings minus the judgment!


I’ll be lying if I say I’m not familiar with pain. Heck, I feel it every single day. After getting my heart broken, I saw the relationship heading south anyway, so I knew what to expect. Gut-wrenching pain, both emotionally and physically. My mind consumed with thoughts of when everything went wrong.


But what I wasn’t prepared for was loneliness. I’m 26. I know I’m still young, but I can’t quite exactly dump all my emotions on my friends and family, who are dealing with their own issues, can I? I don’t mind crying, but I’m afraid of it when it becomes too difficult to stop.


So, what do I usually do? Conceal, don’t feel. Yup, just like what Elsa sang in Frozen.



Unfortunately, this doesn’t always work. It’s not my first rodeo on love and loss. Trying to avoid your emotions only prolongs the anger and grief. It eats you up inside until it becomes unbearable, until it causes you to spiral downward.





According to research, to recover from loss, you need great social support and healthy habits. If you can’t share your pain with your loved ones yet, seek help from a mental health professional who can help you manage your emotions.





I also spent a lot of time outdoors. A change in environment can do you wonders. It made me feel connected to something larger than myself, which was comforting to say the least.




But I think my favorite way to cope was to journal. I wrote and wrote and wrote some more. Getting all my thoughts out of my head and onto paper felt so good. Journaling allowed me to feel all my feelings. And seeing everything in front of me, I was able to process my thoughts and emotions better, reflect, and gain a new perspective.


Healing and moving on take time. But in the meantime, I learned to focus more on what we can control, like journaling. It’s such an underrated self-care tool, that when you get into the habit of using it, you’ll never realize how much relief it brings.



With that, I’m excited to have discovered Viviamo's 2024 planner and journal collection! Starting with the 2024 Belle de Jour Power Planner - Leather, which has this beautiful cover art, a symbol of power and taking ownership, plus it features Aumnipages, your all-in-one planning and journaling system. Each monthly divider also has a corresponding crystal to help you navigate the healing journey better.






Also, I had a hard time choosing between this and the 2024 Everything is Possible Planner – so I bought both, and another! I say the future of journaling is here with its 417 Hz frequency, which you can listen to when you scan the QR codes on every monthly special page. For someone who is dealing with heartbreak, this is such a soothing feature, reminding me that it’s okay to let go and welcome change with open arms. I absolutely can’t wait to pen down all the ~feels~ with the sounds of nature in the background.





And because I'd want to have access to my journals wherever I may be, the 2024 Petit Planner is just the right size to take with me all the time. It’s pocket-sized, but it has all the features you need to stay on top of your goals. I can’t wait to go through all the pages and see how much I’ve healed.


There’s something about getting your heart broken that makes you just want to run away. But even the most painful experiences have to be lived through, and this is where journaling helps. Spend time writing every day, putting pen to paper, and making sense of what you’re feeling. It is only when you understand your pain that you can truly move on.